My friend Wendie and I were having coffee last week. Chattering excitedly about the EPIC plans all of our friends have for 2015.
And getting pedicures. 🙂
I asked her for some honest feedback on this whole adventure of blogging.
‘You have been writing about the fun stuff, the happiness, the A-Z success, the highlights.
You really need to talk about the ugly, hard stuff, the sad stuff, the things that make people quit and give up.
People need to know they are not alone.
They need to know about the crap in the middle.’
She said I should consider talk about the stuff NO ONE WANTS to really talk about… Not even just the embarrassing stuff, which usually makes for at least a great story or laugh at some point.
She said to tackle the DAILY GRIND. The things that easily erode away confidence. Or stop you in your tracks if you have to battle it too many times. The things that fatigue you or plant nagging self-doubt.
Steep learning curves when all you want is SOMETHING to be familiar and NOT so damned hard…
You with me?
The stuff that sucks.
This is the stuff that I battled intently, intensely and consistently this time around.
This is also the exact listing of where I was derailed in EVERY past attempt I made on a ‘diet’ or exercise regime.
This is the crap that was in the middle of my journey…
- I was NOT going to talk about my fat rolls and bulk and weight and the problems they were causing when I tried to exercise, with anyone. Chafing, motion control, infections, back strains. I suffered in embarrassed and humiliated silence for a VERY long time. Shame. Deep shame.
- Life felt unfair. Going to bed hungry, feeling overwhelmed and alone. Usually a little pissed off that ‘normal people’ could eat whatever they wanted. Meanwhile I was a freaking air fern that could gain weight by SMELLING cookies baking.
- Type 2 Diabetes. TRYING to get off of insulin. Having to add more back in. Endless finger sticks. Lows that made me an unbearable, cranky, bratty turd. Trying to eat the right thing at the right time and not be over calories for the day.
- Being so sore from exercising that I literally thought something was broken or ruined.
- Going to social events and choosing NOT to eat what everyone else was eating. And then trying HARD not to look awkward or sad or out of sorts.
- Chronic food pushers/saboteurs.
- Not seeing results. Restricting calories and the scale not moving for days and weeks. Walking further and not finding it any easier. Doing the same things as my friends and they were having success. Me…? Not at all…
- Wanting to quit. Feeling overwhelmed. Knowing there was NO END IN SIGHT. Ever. These habits had to be ‘for life’.
- Food was spot on. Measured and counted everything. Exercised every single day. Drank water. Good blood sugars. I did everything I was supposed to be doing. Scale said I was UP. *Insert scream of rage/despair here*.
- Scale dictating my mood and my feelings of success. I would become a thundercloud of despair because I was up half or a full pound on any given day.
- Revert to comfortable habits when the rest of life was out of control. Cheat on my OWN rules. And then face frustration or panic because I KNEW this was not behavior that would lead me anywhere but BACKWARD…
I know I am NOT alone in my listing of ‘sucky’ things… I’ve talked to too many people.
Please… Tell me what’s missing from my list that is on your list? What is the crap in the middle of your journey?
And once we know what were facing and struggling against… How do we fight back and WIN?
I have to be honest and admit that I still struggle with most of these on some level. I am not an expert. BUT, I am an extrovert, with some sass and a few personal experiences that I am not too embarrassed to share. So I will share. 🙂
I promised Wendie that we would get conversations started about battling the crap in the middle.
Everyday is a new day. You have to start over every single day. No matter how effing hard it is, you fight through it and you start fresh the next day. — Wendie